For me dating seems almost impossible. I have a tendency to like people that aren’t in my immediate zip code not to mention state. It never fails. Perhaps because my job keeps me on the go I can’t seem to get the dating scene down. So, I’ve hung up my dating hat. I’m all about becoming friends. Friendships are easily stretched across the miles whereas dating may not be as easy.
Once you’ve developed a friendship with a person, I’ve found that a trip to where they are or vice versa is too easy to facilitate. Let me tell you, there is a wonderful sense of gratitude when you get up with someone that you have been talking to but haven’t seen a in a long while. I’m not talking about those fair weather friends either. I’m talking about that friend that you can call at the drop of a dime and know they will have a listening ear; that person that can sense in your voice or see in your behavior that something is not quite right. Even in a crowded room you can sense their presence with ease.
Now I don’t know about you guys and girls but that sounds pretty nice. A lot better than meeting someone then having to leave and you have yet to get to know them so you don’t really know what they are doing when you are not there. Gaining friendship cuts that worry and anxiety out. My mother tells me what is meant to be will be and there isn’t anything you can do about it. I know I’m guilty of purposely sabotaging things because I think I know how it’s going to turn out and I don’t like it. Yes I know this is stupid but it’s what I used to do. I say used to because I’m not doing that anymore. It wasn’t really until recently that I discovered the damage that stuff does. I went through a two week period of no sleep and it wasn’t because the baby was keeping me up either. It was because I was trying to make myself not feel a certain way about someone because I thought I could change my feelings. Not possible. You feel how you feel regardless of what you may want. You have to accept it. You may not like it but that’s life. You take the good with the bad and keep going. The good will always prevail. Life’s way too short to be playing the dating game.
I say if you like someone tell them. You may not get another chance.
My God Bless!!!
Nikki J.